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Gregarious and confident and lacks “psychopathology.”

Lawyers playing psychologist, and psychologists playing lawyer.

Psychopathology is “the scientific study of mental disorders.”

Next up, a Personality Assessment Inventory.

Who wouldn’t want Porsche seats in a 2003 Toyota Tacoma?

It is an interesting case all centering on two people who could not get along, act civil, or care about their parents or children. One is dead from a violent killing, the other is in prison for murder, and the rest of the family remains.

How will the kids treat him?

It centered on tampering with evidence. They drove around throwing away bloody items. The local, high-priced New Canaan police dug through parks, dumps, and trash cans everywhere. The state police arrested him.

The pictures, video, and coverage are fantastic.

I am afraid of my husband. I know that filing for divorce, and filing this motion will enrage him. I know he will retaliate by trying to harm me in some way. He has the attitude that he must always win at all costs. He is dangerous and ruthless when he believes that he has been wronged. During the course of our marriage, he told me about sickening revenge fantasies and plans to cause physical harm to others who have wronged him. For example, flying a plane over an ex-client’s home and dropping a brick on his house. I fear for my family’s safety and I believe him to be highly capable and vengeful enough to take the children and disappear.”

They both went to Brown and she went on to earn a masters in writing from NYU, and he a MBA from Columbia. I remember the teen rape at Stanford and the letter. I also knew someone who said she had undergone a myriad of personality tests and that restraining orders in divorces are normal.

Her family has money. She lived in a $3 million house with a nanny and he was persona non grata. I remember this too: the Southern California case of the guy who rode a bike to the movie theater Brinks truck murder and robbery.

It is surprising that so many of the great videos have comments from people who have not been following that there is no evidence. There has been a lot less in murder convictions elsewhere. Right from the start he did not cooperate. They worked it hard, smart, and with money and arrested him within a week for tampering (like obstruction).

The motive? Oh, he lived in a $3 million home too (actually, appraised near two and trying to sell for four) that he was trying to sell. He was in debt. Her family had money and he did not.

What a beautiful couple with looks, brains, and money. Oh, and five kids. Now he looks like a common criminal, sans the tattoos.

The pictures and videos are very revealing.

“The real national news story is that this happens every day,” Charlotte said. “If it happened in any other town, this would not be national news. (Women disappear or are killed) all over the world all the time and it’s only getting attention because it involves a woman in a wealthy town. If she was a person of color, or from another socioeconomic background, no one would (care).”

This is great coverage and writing. We do not have that in Colorado.

The above link is not far from the intersection, sewer grate, video surveillance area, and all that. Monthly payments, $2500; monthly taxes, $2500.

There is still a mystery here–where is the body?–so the case is worth keeping in touch with. There are three defendants. Will one of them crack?

Other than a warning to be careful with RSS, I don’t know what this is. This does not make much sense either. As usual, Dateline is a really good place to start. The woman in the episode said that her writing is about wanting love and I agree. It is not about current events, learning, or doing anything. All she does is observe her kids from a distance and name/place drop. It does have an eerie and mystical air to it, and that is appealing, but that may have more to do with the events since. Perhaps she is a good writer if she works at it. It also smacks of depression.

For him it was a second marriage after the first one fizzled in about 3 years; they were married the month after his divorce, once again for him, in Athens. They met in a Colorado airport (she was in Aspen) some thirteen years after Brown. She seems malleable or even easy at first, and that would change. All five kids have Greek names.

Over the course of twelve years her family lent him over $12 million. It is easier to buy lots and build houses when someone is fronting you interest-free money. The house they lived in is now owned by Gloria Farber. They seemed to survive the Great Recession fine, but afterward his company was barely surviving. He couldn’t do it without the infusions of cash. The first time he was arrested he could not come up with $50K for bond.

He was living off her and philandering to boot. It reminds me of the Gary Triano case, but in that one she killed him. Nannies, Porsches, and gigantic houses in expensive neighborhoods are expensive. Add-in real estate that you are sitting-on and paying for, working out of your home with a large family, and it is stressful. Who is to say he is that much smarter than everyone else in buying vacant land and building massive homes one at a time? If you look at the Fore Group (a.k.a., Foregroup) website one of the properties for sale is the land–the house is an artist’s conception–from his deceased mother’s house. Real estate taxes in that part of the world are high.

She knew about the affair(s) and cash squandering. It was hopeless. He was putting his money and affection into something besides his own family. In her writing she seems pretty lost too. The nanny took care of the kids and the maid cleaned the house…

The Farbers fought back hard and began to break him. They bled him with (a lack of) money, lawsuits, and took away his kids. Two days before the murder he had a picnic with them in his wife’s backyard. He could not see them without a third-party present and he was not allowed in the house. He was humiliated, eviscerated, and emasculated.

We don’t victim bash around here because a murderer is a psychopath, but they both seem spoiled to me. They were a terrible match.

Even the just as facile girlfriend with her young daughter in tow back and forth to court said “We fight all the time.” The degrees from Brown and NYU were worthless. He is sitting on expensive real estate and paying the blood-sucking lawyers. The cops have his phone and computers. He was ruined.

“I didn’t think she would do this to me,” Fotis Dulos said to Michelle Traconis. He did the rest.

It is a fascinating story of an otherwise confident and capable man pushed the brink. He was out for himself and he just could not take it anymore; surely you must know you are going to be caught, but he did it anyway. He will almost certainly spend the rest of his life in jail. That last part is where the defense lawyers and Norm Pattis in particular look so ridiculous: It is an extremely strong case and virtually everything out of his mouth sounds phony and money-grabbing, duty to defend or not.

In the meantime, Dulos is sitting in a 15,000 square foot home that he can barely leave. Remember, this is a family without pensions, 401Ks, or IRAs; her family has money (Hilliard Farber and Liz Clayborne) and the kids have trusts. Fotis Dulos worked for Petros Dulos & Associates when out of college but his family is sketchy; it seems they all moved to the Connecticut area when he attended college in Providence, but that is unclear. This is it, this is his last and only chance, and somehow he received a cash infusion (rumor is from Greece) to post bond on the murder charge. So far no one is getting a lot of answers as to where the money is coming from, but that pressure is likely to increase. It is probable he is selling everything he has at less than top dollar. He has already been sent a notice of eviction from the Farber matriarch. He is prohibited from contacting the other defendants. How will he pay the bills?

He had, past tense, a certain charm. He was able to promote the big houses, seduce women, and wear monogrammed shirts with cuff links through it all. Do you think little kids had a chance? He was able to lie to anyone, from the project manager at the Fore Group with the red Toyota Tocoma to a judge in family court. When the money ran out his true colors showed. He is a classic narcissist gone con man.

Not Gone Girl. Gone con man, and ultimately murderer.

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