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If there’s one thing I’ve learned in all my years (!) it is that things are usually what you think they are.  You are going to be wrong on the details, sometimes embarrassingly so.

The other thing I have learned is that I need to proofread.


Former Wives of Top White House Aide Rob Porter Both Told FBI He Abused Them

And the commenters come pouring out like asylum seekers from a refugee camp.  I mean, get out of the way because it is going to be dangerous.  “He cried and apologized,” now that is real.

The whole thing is real.  Making fun of the bishop, the Kennedy School, Idaho, Orrin Hatch, or any of the contemporaries isn’t going to help.

It was so weird.  The link to came up quickly on my cellphone.  Investigating journalism my ass, but the only two witnesses talked (and blogged).  Here were the facts.  After days on the front pages of the New York Times and Washington Post, here is what actually happened:  the broken window was on the front porch after his suitcase was out and the door locked; a punch in the face occurred after being thrown on the bed; shoulders where grabbed and she was forced out of the shower.

Naked?  Bad joke.

I thought about improper police behavior:  it is almost always about physical injury.  What about corruption or bribery?  As general as we might like to make it, usually it is about a quid pro quo, or a money trail, at least in criminal terms.

I went over the facts noted in theintercept me-too piece.  There is what really happened and is pretty clear, plus there is the chronology and apparent abusive, belittling, and confrontational nature.  The that both marriages were so short–did you know each other at all before the marriages?–and his behavior changed so dramatically is disturbing.  Violence, or an extreme temper, is a real clue; now, the crying and apologizing in the blog post is another.  “Fucking bitch” is not normal.

But I had to go back and read the blog post.  At first I thought I can’t find it!  That’s it!  It is a real disappointment as is the bevy of comments.  If you want to be a celebrity and consultant to others at least improve the writing.

Aren’t they really saying why did I marry him, I didn’t know, I didn’t know better, I accepted some really bad advice, and such?  Maybe they’re saying now I know how to protect myself, I have grown up, and I am finally my own person.


My feeling is, you don’t constantly belittle or abuse someone you love and neither should someone accept it.  Violence?  Mistakes or misunderstandings, probably only once, they can happen.  But what is the real problem?  In the case of Rob Porter I thought, what if it really is just two bad marriages among really immature people who are also unable to communicate for whatever reason?  Alcohol, stress, an abusive parent, the church, or, I’m going to stop before I offend someone because that is a certainty.  He seems to have some or “other” problems and I don’t know what they are.  One of them is now two ex-wives claiming with convincing evidence that he can be violent.

There are times, I think, suitcase by the front door, a window can get broken.  You need to find someone more rational and experienced at fighting!  Hopefully that isn’t the solution either.  Knowing when to or not to call the cops is another thing to learn.  There are times I think when, being on your own, you have to learn these things and others.  Experience with law is one thing to learn.  Psychology could be another.

I know that when I came racing back to the shared house there was another reason.  You’re right, it’s gotta and it should end.  But there are also probably other reasons or, very likely, the ones you used to make up your mind aren’t even true.  Correction:  people may not even believe them.

I hate for it to ever reach a stage when you can’t grope someone.  Yeah, there’s a right time and a wrong time AND PERSON.


OMG.  This is the post everyone hates, when blog writers use their blog to sob and confess.

For the first time ever I am happy with the reverse chronology format.

Long-winded yes, and sorry.  My favorite blog is mgoblog although half the brian/ace tandem is on sabbatical.  Brian’s season and game predictions?  Someday gamblers will learn to bet the opposite or invest short.  They are always wrong, but they never, ever go back and edit anything.  More specifically, edits are publicly posted only for corrections but the basic post is never changed.  They’re already thought-out and the writer is willing to go with them even with the predictable fallout.  And sometimes they’re nothing more than rants, raves, and placeholders way briefer and more vivid than that.  So be it.

People do read this blog and all are welcome.  I refuse to say if you don’t like it don’t read it.  I am glad people read it because this blog is about me.  It is not about anyone mentioned, real or imaginary, it is about me.  Frankly, it is terrible and I always say I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.  Many of the images and videos are blank or removed and that doesn’t matter because it isn’t for show and it isn’t about the past.  You may use the past to judge.  It exists and it won’t go away.

But it is about now, the last post, if you will.

More wisdom from When Harry Met Sally.  Can men and women just be friends?  No, because you always want to…  Perhaps you know the rest.  And finally, Sophie’s Choice.  And this is my only confession:  I like to reference great books and movies.

There’s a woman, written about below, who one could say I have done a lot of bashing.  It is not bashing because it is real.  I cannot stress that enough.  None of it is a surprise.  It has all been said before.  Everyone knows it because it is real.

Up until recently I had one giant question in my head.  Is she another Pam Phillips?

This is the worst thing a blogger can do, quote himself:

Personal experience.  I’ve had women hit me but I have never hit a woman.  I once had a woman invoke a temporary restraining order on me, stating I “threatened” her.  I contested it requesting evidence including when, where, how.  Obviously, nothing became of such evidence and I honestly don’t know what became of such a temporary or permanent restraining order.  She was a woman I lived with years ago; she brought movers and moved out, unannounced, while I was on a business trip, still wanting to continue a relationship, and I never contacted her inappropriately afterward or ever.  What was it, she called the police when I frantically returned home, house lease in my name…  The restraining order attempt–I learned that they can be a sham–was some kind of bizarre retribution, or cover-up, or who knows.

This is from just below and it is something I have no desire to finish.  People have to do what they have to do.  Frankly, I’ve met a lot of women with scars from long ago all caused by men.  Women have to do what they have to do.  For me, I have no pain from what is above and it was a learning experience.

I wrote that down because I wanted to say that is just the way things work these days.  At the time friends said “Can you get one on her?”  I thought, why?  I didn’t get it.  I still don’t get it.  Call it protection or call it a statement, it is standard.  And I suppose you have the right to accept it or contest it, but again, that may be more or less a statement.

Anyway.  When I recalled the story with Tina she said “Good for you.”  That’s right, her motives are OK.  I wouldn’t say pure but they are good.  Who am I to say because all I know is me.  It is not bashing.

It is the one and only choice, not quite like Sophie’s choice but it is close.


Socialite is a word.  How ’bout that.  Pamela Phillips is often described as a socialite.  I remember the video of her being interviewed from jail on her relationship with Ron.  “Oh, no,” she smiled and blushed, “we weren’t lovers.”  The irony is lost on her because she is in there for life and she can never change a thing.

The word still confuses me.  Does it mean the ability to get someone else to pay the premium on your ex-husband’s life insurance?  Does it mean you said you lived in both Haiti and the Dominican Republic, neither of which seem exactly hospitable?


Twitter is just a company.  Obviously.  But the movement is incontrovertible and so much larger than #metoo.  There are things coming out that no one could know or predict.  Maybe it is just that we all want lawsuits, psychologists, or just order.  The opposite sex–or anything having to do with sex–is certainly a target.  There is certainly a lot of hostility.  There is also a lot of just plain communication and getting off one’s chest.

I never liked that websites are not responsible for content on their websites regardless of who posts it.  It goes farther than restricting guns.  Facebook, Snapchat, Google, et. al. are going to find themselves in court and with declining stock values.  It is posted on your website (Youtube) fergodsakes, why should it be the OP’s (original poster’s) or the FBI’s responsibility?


I wonder if Magnus regrets this?  He makes some necessary points:  schools are still vulnerable.  These atrocities don’t happen at pro sports events, and a whole lot of statistics too.  We also heard from the atrocious other side, the guy who is proud to own whatever war-time weapon he owns.  Oh well, I bought a huge locker from Home Depot and they’re locked up and…  It is WAY up there with the most commented-on posts for the football blog and I bet Magnus regrets the whole thing.

Maybe I’ll move to Detroit where it is safe!  It could happen someday.  Crime is actually down and there is all this talk about laying-off police officers.  Anyway, there’s some local stuff, like Finney High in Detroit.  And there are some comments about Thunder Magnus’s tough upbringing that I tried to follow but couldn’t.



Trophy wife




Isn’t that a weird phenomenon and a way everyone can complain or take solace.  And it is absolutely technology driven.

Imagine a way, kind of like a blog, where you can solve everything by writing, taking pictures, or doing anything you want.  No, it is exactly like a blog.

This keeps popping up and playing, over and over again.  It is like a hybrid image, gif, and video all rolled into one.  From everything I can see, Parkland, Florida is an ideal community.  It isn’t supposed to happen there.  Everyone is furious.

Furious at whom?




the number one consumer complaint against rehab centers is related to sexual assault

Christopher Bathum, 56

This is something you learn if you go through old American Greed episodes.  Florida and California are two states that lead in it.  Keywords are “medicaid fraud.”

It is also a direct link into the addicted society; I’m sorry, the people themselves.  With opiods and others one really strong link to the problem is the distribution system.  Here other links exposed are Medaid (state and federal?) and insurance companies.

RE the people themselves, the videos of the employees/residents and neighbors in Denver go a long way to telling the story.

And of course sexual assault.  It is everywhere.

Here we see it is wrong because…  He is going to jail for the rest of his life.  And he was one of the original eBay fraudsters.

He is married with 4 kids!

The white collar crimes follow a familiar pattern.  There are other very similar crimes and criminals on American Greed.  There are probably a lot of small-timers but the ones who do it long-time and big-time really stick out.

One can say it is that repetitive characteristic of just not caring about victims, family, or anyone.  I say, once again, it is the people you leave in your wake.